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Morning thinking...wondering why people lie, front and compete??! Then wonder why things arent working in their favor, its ok to just do you and keep your mouth shut! People speak to soon instead of letting their actions speak for themselves.

I'll stop there.

Have a great one!

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FEED...MEEEE!

This picture represents exactly how i feel right now!!! OMG...I'm starving! Recently, I've developed gestational diabetes due to the me and my Bam Bam's hormones not working well together. And this is my first day on my new "diet" that the gestational diabetes counselor gave us and I feel like I haven't eaten in days! I've been trying to stick to the script and i think i've done well compared to how I usually eat, which isn't too bad, but definitely more than what I can eat now!

You never realize the luxuries you have until they are gone! Everything has to be measured out, to almost nothing but you get more meals a day. And I have to test my blood after breakfast, lunch and dinner as well as when I first wake up. I did great on the morning tests buuuuut after lunch WOWZERS! I'm sure that came from the chocolate and almond granola bars I picked up. I don't even eat granola bars but I had to find ANYthing to snack on. Hell, they are high in fiber which is good but I don't think I'll be able to continue eating them. As I type, my stomach is eating through my back right now and I have a terrible headache and I just ate my afternoon "snack" grapes, milk and 5 pretzels! yes, 17 grapes, 5 pretzels and 1 cup of milk!

I'm going to try my hardest to do better, I didn't do terrible but I can do better especially since I have to write down all my numbers as well as what I eat all day for each meal. I would hate for Jenny (counselor) to make the diet even more strict. COME ON FEBRUARY!! Now I have more sympathy for those who have diabetes to deal with on a day to day basis...this thing is HARD!

Pray for a sista! *scrolls back up to drool over the burger in the pic*

WishList: ZUMBA!

Just thought I'd share that I want this game for Christmas!! I always hear good things about Zumba and I love a good fun work out so I want to give this one a try.

Don't everybody jump at once :-)

Most Kings....Get Ready!

I've been on my Jay Z tip today! I love this track! I put up his explanation of this song a while ago but the lyrics are so true! So if you are on your road to success, here is the blueprint of what may happen along the way. But if you know ahead of time you are prepared to not get consumed..



Mosssst Kiiiingggggssss....get their headssss cut oooooffffffff *bobs head* LOL!

LookBook: I LOVE this

I first saw Usher in his new video with the handkerchief in the pocket of a nice jean jacket and I love it! I found another image that I thought was dope too...#niiiiccceeeee

We Found Love...

I love this new Rihanna song & video! It can be interpreted in many different ways...my interpretation from the title and the video is that they fell in love doing "hopeless" things, meaning partying, using drugs and endless wild sex! None of those things are bad, besides the drug part (weed is an exception lol) but if there is no true foundation of a relationship, basing it off those things alone will make for a bad ending. After all the fun is over, what is left?? There is no substance...



It seems like she was trying to give us a view into her and Chris Brown's relationship...just my opinion. From the guy in the video who resembles Chris Brown with the blonde hair, the parties and the discreet depiction of domestic violence.

Tell me what you think....

Get To Giving! SUPER RICH

Me waking up at 4:30 in the AM has become the norm over the past couple weeks so I started using it as my thinking/meditation time and I've had great thoughts and ideas!

Just want to let everyone know I'll be putting together a toy drive for the holiday season. I have no details, just a thought as of now but be on the lookout! I love the kids and all children deserve to smile during the holiday season...

Law of Attraction

This is a quick post...just had to share that the Law of Attraction is REAL! We all should take out time to create vision boards, small or large. i created one earlier in the year and I was looking over it and I have accomplished or received almost everything on my board. When we can visualize what we want, we now have something to focus on and we eventually will get what it is we see! It's not a magic trick, some other religion or anything spooky like that...it's just visual goal forecasting. I've always heard Oprah talk about Vision Boards but thought it would not work for me but I will be starting on my second one in the near future. This time, me and my love are making a joint board, we're really going to dream BIG and we'll see what happens!

Gotta Get Your Mind Right...

Hey Everyone!!!!

So i'm a Pandora fanatic and it gets me through MOST of my days at work...I was listening to the Mary Mary station and this was the first song that came on. Sometimes I listen to music without listening to the lyrics if i'm doing something else. I listening to these lyrics and they are really good! It's talking about reaching our destination and goals and it starts with getting our minds together first. Some people move to different place, change their appearances etc. but nothing will change if your mind isn't in the right place before the body follows, things will pretty much be the same.



I likessss....

Good Night Quote

Shhhhh....leave things for people to imagine.




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#AMBITION

Wale is back at it again!! Don't forget to pre-order or grab your copy of his new album on 11-1-11!



It's so true...a lot of new artists are not setting their own path. They go for what's catchy, not what's true to themselves that's why they have no longevity. People can hate on Wale because he's "not from DC" or too "cocky" but he's putting in work and I can definitely see him outlasting a lot of newly accepted rappers that are out. Any success takes failure first...just like my other post said "Most Kings get their heads cut off"

ENJOY!

Miss Representation....

Do you feel the media properly represents women now days?? Media being tv, radio, internet or any outlet that give a message to the people...

I'm always looking for a good documentary because I love to learn or get more information on all different types of subjects. I saw this trailer on a website and I thought it would be of interest to a lot of people. This documentary is to air on the OWN network sometime this month! I hope I haven't already missed it. Check it out and think about the shows we let our kids or relatives watch on tv and think about the message it sends. We underestimate the power of the media but we never know what the kids, teens or even adults believe and the sad part is...media is controlled so there are those who pick and choose what will be disclosed to the people. It's important to educate ourselves instead of being lazy and just believing any and everything that is fed to us.

Newest Miss Representation Trailer (2011 Sundance Film Festival Official Selection) from Miss Representation on Vimeo.

What do you think?? This can also be a wake up call for those who have sons, we have to be careful the things we tell or teach them about women. It's ok to teach them to watch out for the gold diggers, hoes and trappers but ALL women aren't that way and the ones who are...we have to wonder what got them to that point to think being all the above, ok?

Interviews...

In my Magazine Writing course, we are now learning about conducting good interviews! I've always wondered how to conduct a fun but informative interview. First, I'm always a nervous wreck then having to pry to get different information makes me even more nervous. You don't want to ask the same ol' questions so sometimes you have to just jump out there and see what happens.

The most important thing I saw in my interview I did, being prepared helps!! If you have a list of questions you always have something to refer to. Even if the interview flows and things are just spoken about naturally, whenever you get stuck you can go back to your list. It's good to practice on friends and family members, children included...they are the most honest! Do your research before coming up with questions, it's a terrible feeling for a interviewee to get annoyed because you're asking question pertaining nothing to them or their area of expertise.

EXHIBIT A: Lil Wayne kicks out a interviewer for not doing his proper research LOL Funny but a tough way to learn about the importance of research.

Most Kings Get Their Heads Cut Off.....

Morning! I thought I put this video up a loooong time ago!! Better late than never....Jay Z quoted Basquiat, a very driven and influential artist, when speaking on success and ALL the changes that comes with it. My Dad always told me, changes and true colors always show in friendships when one deviates from the path that everyone was once on. Some may begin to be more successful or some may just decide to do different things with their life and when the playing field isn't equal anymore some begin to change...not all but it happens often. Jay was just speaking on how people go through so much to become better, for end the end to get their head chopped off and be criticized. I hope you enjoy the short clip...



By the way....28 more days until the WATCH THE THRONE TOUR!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cole World: Daddy's Little Girl

SEPTEMBER 27, 2011 Cole World will be released!! Cop you one lol

I'm a huge fan of J. Cole and is long awaited album 'Cole World' is will be released tomorrow. I put up about post about him a while ago, be sure to check it out! J. Cole <-- click and it will direct you to the post...sorry had to do that for the readers who may have been looking for the link. I've followed all of his mixtapes and he talks about a lot of good stuff!

He just released a video for one of my fave songs on the new album! It's deep and depicts a picture that is the norm for a lot of girls now days. Girls need their dads or a really good and consistent father figure.

Enjoy!!

Update: Facebook Fast....

Hey Hey Hey!!

I know you all are wondering if I've given in during my FB fast...or maybe you could care less BUT I'll let you know how things have been going anyway! lol In almost a month, I have only logged back in to FB ONE time and it was for a co worker who wanted to see the page of a security guard that worked in our building who unfortunately got murdered. And as soon as we looked at the page, I deactivated it right away! I did glance at a few pics but I was on it for about 10 minutes. Yaayyy Meeee!!

Since then, I have accomplished so many different things! I've been way more productive at work, I've sent a query to a magazine for one of my articles and I'm waiting to hear back from them...I hope they accept! I've began blogging for another website Just Shuddup be sure to check me out, my name on there is Eesh77. And I have started my 'Crafts of Magazine Writing' online course and I love it so far! I'm learning a lot about this writing thing and how much you can really do with it if you work hard and stay focused. Oh, I've also continued with the tutoring program and have another student.

Wheeewww! so yeah I've been productively busy and I feel great! The crazy part is, I really don't miss Facebook. Maybe because I have twitter for the meantime in between time but it definitely isn't as time consuming as FB. We really don't realize how much the smallest things hold us back, if there is something you can cut back on try it and see how much more you can get accomplished without that thing in your life for just a month....you will be surprised!

Quote for the day....

“I just do not hang around anybody that I don’t want to be with. Period. For me, that’s been a blessing, and I can stay positive. I hang around people who are happy, who are growing, who want to learn, who don’t mind saying sorry or thank you… and [are] having a fun time.”

~ John Assaraf

Be Prepared....

Good Morning! I hope the rain hasn't put a damper on your day so far!

Just thought I'd share how important it is to prepare ahead of time so when opportunities present themselves we are ready to take full advantage! We always hope and pray for just that one break but just think, if you get that break are you even ready to step up to the plate?? There is always downtime when we feel we are doing things for no reason or wasting time but there will be that time when opportunity comes knocking...will you be prepared??

Don't waste time on things that won't move you forward because that time could be spent on investing in your future and that one break can sling shot you to a place you've always wanted to be!!

Have a great week!!

Raunchy Day...LOL

Soooo after Lil Wayne's #hotghettomess of a performance on the VMAs I'm embarrassed to put this song up but it's my guilty pleasure! "She Will"...the lyrics are raunchy as usual but I love the beat!

*turns up headphones*



I still don't think a Drake/Wayne album would touch Watch the Throne but they may have hotter beats but lyrics...no competition and that's what matters! But they could put together a catchy album that won't be timeless as Jay and Kanye always does as individuals and now combined!

Sorry, you know I have to have a Jay Z plug whenever I get the chance!

Queen Bey is Preggers!!!!

Yes Yes Yes!! ya'll knew it was coming!! Jay and Bey are preggers!!! Bey revealed her baby bump at the 2011 VMA red carpet then she stamped it at her performance when singing "Love on Top" and she opened her jacket!! Jay's expression was priceless! I so love the Carters!

MTV Video Music Awards 2011 - BEYONCE "Love on Top" from Chokolate mmm on Vimeo.

Bey still knows how to rock the stage, in her high heels, fierce and preggers! So now the media can stop spreading rumors about Bey being pregnant for the millionth time! She definitely smacked the media in the face with this one. I love them! They keep their business so private that people often wonder so much that they have to make up things to say so now they gave people a small glimpse into their world and as we see they are very much in love. A relationship should have some sort of privacy because it keeps the intimacy between the couple. Relationships don't have to be validated by facebook, twitter or anyone else besides the two involved. Ok as I digress as usual, CONGRATS to the happy couple!!

By the way, Yeezy looks just as happy as Jay!

#CARRYON

Be YOU...

I love these few lines...I posted so I would have a reference when I wanted to read it again but I hope this will inspire everyone else as well! There is only one YOU...be good at it!

"Don't be perfect
Be you
Don't be what you think they want you to be
Be what you know you are
Don't look outside yourself for anything
It's all within."
- Jackson Kiddard

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Smile...

For anyone that knows me know I'm always smiling or laughing at something! Don't ask me why, I just do! I also think a lot so sometimes I may be thinking about something funny and don't have a problem just laughing to myself out loud. I love this Kirk Franklin song and the video is simple but it's something about it that I love! Thought this would be a good mid day pick me up. I try not to take life so seriously so it's easy for me to laugh at stuff and smile. I have my terrible days but I try to find ways to deal with them and move forward. In the meantime...SMILE!! Plus bitter and miserable people don't know what to do with it LOL! *cheesing*

Facebook Detox

As a follow up to my previous post I thought I'd share that I'm putting myself through Facebook detox! I even wrote up an article entitled Social Networking: The Gifts & Curses of Facebook, I'll be submitting it to a magazine after I finish making all of my edits :-) Anyway, back to the topic at hand...I am addicted to Facebook! It's not as bad as it was when I first joined a couple years ago but now I log in more so out of boredom or as a means to procrastinate. Sometimes I'm going to type in a web address and I unconsciously type www.facebook.com....that's when I knew I needed HELP!

When we are on Facebook we are doing exactly what my previous post stated, NOT minding our business! I also did research and Buzz Blog said that over 700 billion minutes a month are spent on Facebook...that is insane to me! And I'm sure I've contributed a great portion of those 700 billion minutes. I started to think Hmmm how much more could I get accomplished using those minutes doing more productive things with my time. I had a whole list of things and that's what I'm going to tackle during my detox. I've started with just a month so hopefully I will have something good to report after this is over. Plus, all we are reading about is a bunch of embellished lives, hyped up relationships, drama and looking at bottle poppin' and white girl wasted pics *shrugs* Definitely not knocking anyone but hey "it is what it is"....

I've already deactivated my page and I've caught myself almost activating it just to get a quick "hit" LOL Who knows, I may never get back on Facebook but I seriously doubt that but I may start a new page and become a "Productive Facebooker" using it to find businesses, groups and network with people trying to do the same things I am. Wish me luck! Well pray for a sista!

Mind Your Business!

.....was the title of the guest preacher's sermon at Zion Church yesterday. I tuned in online and I was so glad I did! Basically he was saying how we miss out on the life we are supposed to be living worried about what everyone else is doing. Which is soooo true, we fail to realize how time consuming being nosy and taking on other people's burdens can be. By the time you are focused on yourself you are too drained or distracted to do anything else. We all want to be there for the people we love to support them but sometimes we have to walk away.

He also spoke about how some of us don't know what "our business" is....which is so very true! He said the way to find our business is to think about the things that brings us happiness and people confirm that we are great at it, whatever that thing or those things are that is what we need to focus and put all our time and energy into. A lot of times we have to do things when we don't feel like it, that is what separates the ones who move to the next level, come into contact with the right people at the right time and do more than they could have imagined.

I have a feeling I know what my business is but sometimes I have a problem with knowing how to go about getting where I need to go. So for now I am just going to improve on these things, study, continue helping others and leave the rest in God's hands. The preacher used the FORM acronym to explain how to find "your business" which is...

F - What fires you up...
O - Others confirm it....
R - Remember what you've done well in the past....
M - It Makes others feel good...

I came up with a great idea to start doing with something I know I'm really good at so stay tuned! I should have something new on here within about a month! I'm excited, but i just can't let those "I don't feel like it" days slow me down.

You Will Get There....

"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." ~ Henry David Thoreau

FIRE!!

I created this look on my new guilty pleasure site! I'm not too sure about the scarf but I thought I'd throw it in there...I love mint green polish and it is total opposite of the colors in the outfit. Those shoes...HAVE TO HAVE THEM! The jacket, have to find a replica b/c this one is almost $1000 #nobueno

Inspired by the tomboy in me LOL

Beautiful People....

For some reason when I listen to this song in the morning it gets me started off on the right foot. Weird, I know but it's a fun song and video! Everyone is beautiful in their own way and if we take the time to find the beauty instead of flaws things would be a lot better.



I recently stopped believing in flaws, what we think are "flaws" are the things that make you...YOU! Of course we all have things we need to work on but who doesn't?? I've been working hard lately on not judging because as one of my previous posts stated earlier "everyone has a story".....Also putting negative thoughts about people into others head is not fair, if you feel a certain type way about someone, keep it to yourself unless the other person has a way of defending themselves. We all like to vent but sometimes venting to the wrong person can eventually become damaging.

as I digress (as usual)....LIVE...LOVE....LAUGH! I have the laughing part down packed, don't take life too seriously :-))

Passion vs Money

I'm finally posting from my poll question I added a while ago. From the whopping 4 people who voted I see that 50% of people are afraid to pursue their true passion out of fear of not having enough money.

I am also one of those people who is terrified of change, I've been coming out of my comfort zone for the past year and it feels great but when it comes to money I'm still stuck in my zone. It's always that question "well how am I going to pay my bills"??? I've always had this fear of being flat broke so I'm always stashing money, saving etc. But I have passions I want to pursue but by the time I get off from my 9-5 I'm dead tired. I'm really thankful for my job especially in these financially trying times but I know I have more in me. I just have to discipline myself to maximize the free time I do have instead of being lazy or participating in useless activities.

My small piece of advice to my fellow "passion pursuers" don't quit your day job UNLESS it is just something that you hate and is emotionally draining and you just can't take it! lol With doing that you will have to downsize your lifestyle in order to make ends meet with the funds you bring in from your passion, if any in the beginning. But back to my advice (did I mention I think I have adult ADHD), put your all into whatever side career you are pursuing. Spend any free time practicing, networking, marketing yourself etc. A lot of times we will have to say NO to a lot of people but you know it's for the better. Also use the extra money from the 9-5 to fund your passion. A lot of times we can teach ourselves many things but we have to be dedicated and disciplined to do it.

We have everything we need WITHIN ourselves to do anything we want! We just can't let what society says and the "norm" scare us away. Even if we just read a book about whatever we're pursuing, that is better than nothing. When we take one step, God takes the next and HE will put us in contact with the right people and put us at the right places at the right time. But if we don't make a move neither will HE. We only get one life to live so why not enjoy it as much as possible! When you are doing what you love the money will follow, I used to just think that was just a cliche' but I've seen many examples of individuals stepping out on faith and everything working out in the end. They are more financially stable than they were in their comfort zone and living a fulfilled life.

Trust me, I am still a work in progress so I wrote this so I can continuously read it for myself because I'm still in a "stuck" phase but I hope this helped someone else in the meantime!!

Now Listening....

....to Watch The Throne! I'm doing work and trying to listen so I've been doing a lot of rewinding but so far this thing is GREAT! Not because I'm a Jay fan but this is a well put together album. Especially compared to what is being put out these days...so far my fave songs are "Lift Off" with QUEEN BEY and "Ni99@$ in Paris"...I love this beat and the words. "Gotta Have It" has a lot of cool punch lines. My fave "lucky lefty I expect a 7" being as though I'm a lefty and 7 is my fave number, I'm practically obsessed with sevens!!!!

I'm getting even more excited about the show and pissed at the same time because it's almost 3 WHOLLEEEEE months away!!

Make sure you get a copy off iTunes and the hard copies will be in Best Buy on August 12th...

Boogy!!!

How rude of me! I never introduced everyone to my new puppy!!! My red toy poodle's name is Boogy and I love him sooo much! We have spoiled him already...I had been looking for this dog for years ever since I saw Rihanna with it I had to have it. I love his color and he's so bite sized lol It was a surprise birthday gift from my boo thang and I had no clue I was getting him. He already thinks he's a human and he has to sleep on the pillows or up against someone's back, stomach or legs. Buying him a bed was a waste of money! But how could you not let such a cute little teddy bear do whatever he wants??? ok nothing more to say but heeeeere's Boogy!! :-)

Everyone Has a Story....

I came across this very interesting documentary on twitter directed by Corey Davis a film director out of Atlanta. He's also apart of the City of Ink Family. This film literally had me in tears....PLEASE WATCH!! It's pretty lengthy but well worth it. We all make jokes about crackheads, unks etc. but everyone has a story. From this video we see that a lot of people got hooked and never saw it coming. It took one traumatic change in their life that they could never bounce back from. Others just experimented or it was apart of their lifestyle at the moment and ended up losing everything to just support a habit they fell hard in. These individuals all had potential, dreams and talents and all so quickly they can be washed away.

This definitely showed me how blessed I really am and that one bad decision can really bring a lifetime of pain. BUT I still feel their life isn't over....it will definitely take a lot of dedication, discipline and support to get their lives back on track but they have to WANT it. Some feel there is no way out but all it takes is that one person willing to listen and can begin to spark a interest in change. Thanks Corey Davis for shedding light on this epidemic that is still ruining lives and families.

Get to know the pages before you judge the books cover.....

J is for Junkie [Full Length] from Greedmont Park on Vimeo.

Greedmont TV presents a documentary by Corey Davis on a group crack addicts in Atlanta who live outside in a small cove behind a Texaco, infamously dubbed as the "Living Room." They share their stories and tell us what it's like to battle with a deadly addiction to crack-cocaine. "Growing up I never had a father, because he was out running the streets getting high… Right around the time I was born, the mid 80′s, African-American communities across the country was struck by the crack epidemic. Which robbed us our prideful culture and instantly perverted it into a counter-culture where playgrounds became warzones and families were destroyed." [Directed by Corey Davis]

Jay-N-Ye' Documentary

A behind the scenes look into the making of Watch The Throne....My girl Queen Bey was right by Jay's side! Looking forward to the album as well as the upcoming tour :-)) These men are definitely some hard working genius'...

Watch The Throne!!!!

I just saw the most exciting news of the month today!!!!! Jay Z & Kanye will be starting their "The Throne" tour!!! I've been waiting for this for soooooo long!!! We all know I'm an avid Jay fan and I love Kanye....can't wait!!! I've posted the tour dates released so far!! BE THERE!!! September 29th can't get here quick enough!!!

9/22/11 Detroit, MI Palace of Auburn Hills

9/24/11 Toronto, ON Air Canada Centre

9/25/11 Montreal, QC Bell Centre

9/27/11 East Rutherford, NJ Izod Center

9/28/11 East Rutherford, NJ Izod Center

9/29/11 Washington DC Verizon Center

10/4/11 Philadelphia, PA Wells Fargo Center

10/6/11 Chicago, IL United Center

10/7/11 Chicago, IL United Center

10/8/11 Minneapolis, MN Target Center

10/10/11 Denver, CO Pepsi Center

10/13/11 Tacoma, WA Tacoma Dome

10/14/11 Vancouver, BC Rogers Arena

10/16/11 San Jose, CA HP Pavilion

10/17/11 Sacramento, CA Power Balance Pavilion

10/19/11 Los Angeles, CA Staples Center

10/20/11 Los Angeles, CA Staples Center

10/21/11 Las Vegas, NV MGM Grand Garden Arena

10/25/11 Dallas, TX American Airlines Center

10/26/11 Houston, TX Toyota Center

10/29/11 Atlanta, GA Philips Arena

10/30/11 Greensboro, NC Greensboro Coliseum

11/1/11 Baltimore, MD 1st Mariner Arena

11/3/11 Boston, MA TD Garden

The Blueprint...

Whenever I'm in a funk, this album always brings me back up to speed. Jay Z is always a good pick me up...he demonstrates how trials and tests will come but as long as you face them head on, never run and stay focused on you there will always be light at the end of the tunnel. Then you can tell people about it later or in fact, they will see for themselves :-)

People always thought the worse of him, no one ever gave him anything or a chance to prove himself so he did it his way and now he calls all the shots, has and is still turning all types of people into believers.

One of my random days, think I'll be posting things all day!

"a wise man told me don't argue wit' fools...cuz people from a distance can't tell who is who...."

Speaking Up...Truth Heals

SAY WHAT YOU MEAN & MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.....

Speaking up can be a scary thing for many of us, I know for me it is because I HATE conflict. Also when I say things at times I don't know nice ways to say it and I never want to hurt a person's feelings even if what I am saying is the truth. So to spare someone's feelings and avoid conflict I will rather just say nothing. The saying is true "you can't handle the truth"!!! We all say we want to hear it but if it does not line up with what we HOPE to hear we get hurt, offended and upset. But once the truth has been spoken and the feelings have died down, it can begin to heal situations and relationships because all parties are aware of true feelings. The key to the truth being a healer and not a killer is the motive.....

We should never intentionally try to hurt a person's feelings because that will definitely backfire and make matters worse. But if deep down inside the goal is to help one become better or to help two or more better understand each other, things will eventually work out. It will take time because people's feelings can get hurt easily especially if it is coming from a person who never speaks up or if the person is not used to others voicing their opinions. A lot of times we genuinely think we are right in many situations and until the truth is brought to our attention we will continue to act and feel the same. I know my feelings get hurt when I hear the truth but I can respect it and I also think really hard about what I've been told. But the source has to be reliable. Some people say things that are just really bogus but we know when a person really wants to help and we also know areas that we need to work on but we choose to ignore them.

Recently, I was in a situation where I was forced to say a lot of things that I had been holding in for years and I felt really bad after wards! But I reminded myself of the goal and my motives and they were all in line so I just have to leave it up to time to heal the feelings. In me stating how I had been feeling I got a lot of feedback that I needed and I felt a lot better. Some of my assumptions were even cleared up and we both knew exactly where each other stood. Conflict is inevitable so sometimes we need to move towards "healthy" conflict and it will make you a more confident person and you will also see the quality of relationships improve over time. Expressing oneself opens up the lines of communication and communication is key in any relationship not just with a significant other. You develop more intimate relationships when you get below the surface. We can all put on a good face but we all have things that we want to say to many people but are afraid of conflict or the outcome.

So find a way to say what's on your mind....be sure to think about your words because words are powerful. If you are just starting out, maybe write a letter then discuss the letter after it has been read. But there will be a big weight lifted once speaking up becomes the norm and in order to get what you want in life you have to SAY WHAT YOU MEAN & ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT! No one is a mind reader and hoping people will just know how you feel will leave you upset and frustrated every time.

I hope this helped someone....

Kelz's Pick-Me-Up....

Kellie is going to get me! I was supposed to do this post on Sunday...but like you said one thing a day so I can say i put up the picture on Monday morning lol

As she saved the day and fit me in her schedule to do my hair after a couple days at the beach it turned out to be a wonderful visit. We both were talking about our feelings, dreams, goals, moments of feeling stuck and also confusion. I left with a different perspective and more energy to continue working at the things I enjoy. I shared how I had been slacking off on the blog post updates, slacking on my photography and just at a state of confusion. I know what I love to do but I just can't think of what I want to call it that I want to be...if that makes any sense. The thing that stuck out the most was "you got the goods"...I have everything I already need and if I just continue to be diligent and improve on ALL the things I enjoy doing which also unknowingly help and inspire others God will guide me and it will all make sense.

I also expressed how I feel like I put time in and I never see anything come of those things so she asked "well how much time are you putting in"?? And as I thought about it, I have days where I go ALL IN then I won't do anything for a good couple weeks and that isn't good enough. So I am working on doing one thing a day involving goals I wish to accomplish. My problem is focus and discouragement. When I get discouraged I lose FOCUS. I'm working on it and I know I will see improvement in those two areas.

So thanks again Kelz and know that you really helped!! Be sure to check out her wonderful site Living For Purpose and be sure to order a copy of her new book !!!

Have a great one people and just remember, take everything one day at a time...don't focus on the bigger picture do your best in the NOW and the bigger picture will be more than you could even imagine!

Great Quote!!!

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I thought this was a great quote especially when we get hard on ourselves when working to accomplish goals. A lot of times it's the smallest achievements that actually define success. The big goals are awesome to tackle but don't overlook the small things that we give and get. Hope this helped your day, I know it has helped mines.....

#GOODDADSROCK!

With Father's Day coming up this Sunday I thought I'd post this really cute video!! I could not stop laughing! Men need to really step up and be there for their kids whether they have enough money or not, kids don't think about that. Fathers can do the smallest things and their children will remember it forever.


Also MEN, you don't have to be hard all the time! Loosen up and have a little fun with the kiddies.

I hope you enjoyed! If you do have a good father, husband, boyfriend, baby daddy etc. treat him good this coming Sunday. You don't have to buy an extravagant gift but just do something for him that he will remember forever.

GRATITUDE....

Gratitude: thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation is a positive emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive

I've been really slacking on blogging lately, I've been kind of busy doing other things in my spare time but I promise I'm back on it! I thought Gratitude would be a great topic to come back on...my plain and simple definition is appreciation of anything a person does for me, whether it be big or small! Having gratitude and being humble go hand in hand, life has a way of humbling all people who have a sense of entitlement, in other words ungrateful people!

We have to realize, we came in this world alone and we will leave alone so NO ONE...i repeat NO ONE owes us anything! The only person we can hold accountable is God based on His promises to us and even with that we may not get the very things we ask for but we will get the things that we need and that are best for us. So anytime someone does anything even if it's just a simple compliment that brightens up our day, we need to be thankful for that. It's the smallest gestures that make a huge difference in our day to day living. Individuals are always looking for fireworks, blow horns and fire spitting monkeys in order to be happy. when little things no longer make you happy, you will NEVER get to get the bigger things in life. Why would God give us more when we don't appreciate what we already have?? We sometimes need to take a look inside and see what's the problem when nothing makes us happy. Why do we always nag?? Why do we always complain?? Why do we feel it's others job to clean up our mess we made?? It's a form of self hate...point blank. When we hate who we are as individuals there is nothing any one or any THING can do on the outside to bring satisfaction.

This is why there are tons of sick minded people in this world because instead of searching within themselves they point the finger at others, throw dirt on others names etc. because they want everyone to feel like they do and try to make themselves feel better. When in reality the problem hasn't been solved! Everyone continues on with their life and see these individuals for who they really are. It's time for us (me included) to GIVE more, then you RECEIVE 10x what you put out. Don't give just to get something out of, give from your heart. Even if it's not appreciated just do it because it's the right thing to do. Good Givers are Good Getters as Russell Simmons would say and we all know he's getting IT! lol

Always remember, HURT PEOPLE...HURT PEOPLE and there are some things you can overlook but when you are no longer appreciated or respected it's time to re evaluate your self worth and make the necessary changes. We can make this world a lot better if we get out of our own way and think about ways to help others and we ALL will benefit in the end :-))

Kind of long but it's with good intention....

Urban Soul Warrior....

I couldn't wait until I finished this book to tell you all about it! This is an amazing read...i think everyone should get a copy! it will make you think about so much going on within yourself and how it portrays on the outside in our daily lives. It includes mini exercises to help you write out thoughts, fears, wants, etc. When we write things it allows us to accept them...both good and bad. This book helps us to have a non judgmental attitude towards ourselves and others. No one has "flaws" those perceived "flaws" are the very intricacies that makes us different from the next person. We all have things about us that need to be dealt with or nurtured but even our worse "flaws" can open our eyes to the very best qualities about ourselves.

I haven't finished reading just yet but where I've gotten so far I am in awe at the things that I've learned about myself. I've suppressed so many feelings, beliefs and dreams while centering most of my opinions around the "norm". This book will be like a RAW version of a diary! You can get the book on Amazon for dirt cheap so cop you one!!!

My rant to Patience...

Just a snippet of my rant to Patience...I'm trying to get this thing down packed, i see progression but not quite there yet:

"Dear Patience aka Bxtch,

Why are you so hard to obtain?? Why when I think I have you down packed you seem to slip through my fingertips? Why are you always tested when I feel I'm at my best ME?? Why do you make me feel like I’m wasting time with nothing to come in the end?? Why do others without you seem to get all the goods?? Am I making any progress? If so, I sure as hell can’t tell! Can you just show me one sign…a bite sized sign….a huge sign…anything?!"

I'm thinking of submitting this in it's entirety to a magazine because I know we ALL have these thoughts and feelings at some point and time. Just thought I'd share...

Color Outside the Lines....

Hi Beautiful People!!! I've been gone for a while taking care of a lot of unexpected situations but I'm back on track!

What a great way to start out with a clip from a new film coming out entitled "Color Outside the Lines: A Tattoo Documentary".... this films documents black tattoo artist and their struggle in the tattoo world. Talks about the differences between "scratchers" and real SKILLED tattoo artist. Today's society loves tattoos but we need to get to supporting the real artist who have taken out the time to actually learn their craft and give amazing and HEALTHY tats.

Check out the trailer and become a backer of the film if you would like to support this movement!



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Love Them to Pieces...BEY N' JAY

Saw this picture on Necole Bitchie's page and had to post it! I love power couples who still know how to just have fun with one another. Hovi is play fighting with Bey, she looks like she got the bobbing and weaving down packed!

It's always important to have fun with your partner...sometimes we take life too seriously! You don't want your home life being drab so make your relationship what YOU TWO want it to be not what people say it should be. I'm a big kid at heart so my partner has to know how to have fun or we will NOT work...

Keep On Pushin....

"Life is very interesting.. in the end, some of your greatest pains, become your greatest strengths"

Just thought I would share this quote that I came across on twitter, for anyone who may be feeling overwhelmed by things going on in life right now. Keep pushing and know that everything will get better. That's what I'm reminding myself now during my rough patch...I've really matured because with all the BS I still have a sense of happiness and joy =)) it's impossible for negative times to last forever...do your part, learn from it and let God handle the rest.

ALL OF THE LIGHTS....

PULL OUT YOUR 3D GLASSES!!

I'm a huge Kanye fan and off his most recent album this was one of my favorite tracks! This is such a doooope video...i love colors and from an artistic point of view it's amazing! It's like you almost get tranquilized staring at the colors.


Kanye West - All Of The Lights
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I just wish all the features on the song could have been in the video...especially my girl Fergie! I know she would have went off! ENJOY!

I was reading on Necole Bitchie how this vid was deemed a health hazard! "particularly to those who suffer from epilepsy. The constant use of flashing imagery in the video may cause people with photosensitive epilepsy to have seizures. A U.K based charity group contacted Youtube and other video channels after they received calls from people who had seizures upon viewing the video"

WishList...Bedazzled Booties!!!!!

OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG! I have to have these booties! I am a lover of colors and these shoes are a must have! They sold out in one day so i made sure to get an update when they are back in stock....the price tag is pretty steep but sometimes you have to treat yourself and this may be my treat for the spring/summer!

You can tell me these things ain't HOT FIYAH!! And any simple outfit will work...I can't stop staring at them!

Believe...

Ive been having a rough couple of weeks...feeling a little overwhelmed with things i'm trying to stay on top of. While continuing to remind myself all things done with good intentions and the right motives will work out in the end! I had on a bracelet i just bought today and i happened to actually looked at the word on the gold plate and it said BELiEVE. I just took that as a sign from God to keep working and that He sees all my efforts....

When things are bad they're BAD but the lessons learned from each situation makes it all worth it in the end.


- Checking in from my iPhone...I love everyone's feedback!

Hip Hop Sh*t...

Someone posted this new Chris Brown track on FB and I had to upload it to my blog! This is some real good hip hop...if you listen to the words they are really spitting some good stuff :-)) I was so excited to see this! Too bad it wasn't longer than 2 minutes...

"Sometimes I wish I had better friends and better peers...cuz I know when that cheddar ends they disappear"



Never knew Chris Brown to be a hip hop rapper but he did his thing. I hope he's not tired of dancing because he kept the bar high in the department...

*turns headphones up*

TITLES...YAY or NAY

"Do you wanna be my boy/girlfriend" check YES or NO...

Do titles help or hurt "friendships" and potential relationships? I had just been randomly thinking, as always, and I wondered is having a title on a relationship a big deal?? I feel there are pros and cons but to me, when it boils down a title is just something to make the other partner accountable for their actions. I feel both parties having a CLEAR understanding is way more important than a title.

As you get older, no one really says "Ok today on February 16 we are now officially a couple" but where or when do you know you are exclusive with that person? A lot of times we don't realize we are exclusive until one day you look up like damn this is the only person I have a desire to be with but the question is does the person you're "dating" feel the same? Sometimes when there is no title it's an easy out if one gets caught up talking to or having sex with an outsider. That's where the understanding comes in...i feel these things should be kind of discussed once you find yourself consistently hanging out and talking on an everyday basis. it's easy to assume and then when things change you're kind of stuck because it's like, welllll do I say something or don't I...

A lot of times when we enter friendships we have no idea what direction that will go in. Women, not all but many, have a habit of not setting boundaries or stating their likes and dislikes as a way to make the guy feel 100% comfortable and to not cause confusion in the beginning. That is the problem...it is ok to say what you don't like or don't feel is acceptable. now, don't expect the guy to immediately change...if ever. But at least he will know what you expect if things do happen to progress and he will know what he's getting himself into up front. A lot of guys fear that once they put that stamp on the relationship being together becomes a chore and the dynamic changes drastically. The minute it's stamped then the female runs down this long list of do's and don'ts! So that's why at times commitment seems unattractive because everything changes. And that should not be the case...of course certain actions should be cut back but for the most part both parties should be on the same page by the time and commitment is made.

You don't place standards later, you set them in the beginning then that will make for a smoother transition. Me personally, I don't get caught up on titles because I like for things to just flow naturally BUT I do see why they could be important when dealing with someone who isn't being all the way up front about their "extracurricular" activities. Once that title gets spoken up the guy knows he needs to tie up any loose ends and even with a title that is not guaranteed! Some people will just give the title, to get the other person off their back but still doing them on the side....so I guess it's a no win situation. the key is OPEN AND HONEST communication, understanding and trust. Do what is best for YOU and your situation not what everyone else says you should do.

Everything does not work for everybody...

Happy Valentine's Day!

I guess it would be "unethical" if I didn't post a Vday blog today...Vday is cool but I definitely feel it's a holiday geared to the economy. Love should be shown everyday not just once a year. Today should be used to show everyone love, not just your significant other but family and friends as well. Sometimes this day can cause turmoil in relationships that aren't as stable as couples think they are. One person gets mad if the couple didn't spend enough money or they are dissatisfied with the "gift" when a gift OR Valentine's day should not make or break the happiness in a REALationship.

The same thought we put in making our loved ones happy today, we should try doing that more often...money doesn't always have to be spent, there will be years where finances aren't good so then how will love be shown?? just enjoy today and reflect on ALL the good in our lives and be sure not to let the superficial take away the true meaning of LOVE!

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!

Black History Month...

In honor of Black History Month I thought I'd put up a short post about a great black woman, other than my Ma of course, who inspires me in many ways. Maya Angelou...she is one of the most influential African American authors and orators of the twentieth century. She started out as a cable car conductor after she dropped out of high school then she went on to get into singing and dancing in the 1950s. Then in the '60s she began writing and editing and through the 70s she found her talents as an actress, director, poet and screenwriter.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" ~ Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou was featured on one of Oprah's series entitled 'MasterClass' and I learned that she was mute up until the age of 6! To think she is one of the greatest orators just shows me it doesn't matter how you start but how you finish and anyone is capable of greatness as long as it is desired. I love her spirit, all her interviews are just so fulfilling and they give hope and she can relate to anyone...not just writers, poets, ect. The lessons she's learned can be applied to any individuals every day life.

My Grandmother loves Maya Angelou and it is sooo crazy how she looks just like her!! My Gma also has the kind of soul like her as well. Very wise, and sweet but can be a firecracker at the drop of a dime! We always joke about how we are going to get my Gma on Oprah on a look-a-like show :-) My Gma is a huge fan of Oprah as well as Maya A. I've included a pic of my Gma in case you didn't believe me. People on a daily basis ask if my Gma is Maya and she tells them no and just giggles...there have been many people who thinks she is lying to keep her identity under wraps.

Even though blacks and their history should be celebrated and taught daily, let's be sure to take out at least this month to learn and teach someone, whether it be youth or an adult, about the strength of our black leaders!

Wish List....

Just browsing the net and thought I'd post a pic of an item I have to get for the summer! The Ray Ban Wayfarer sunglasses...I'd been debating on getting them all last year but I kept putting it off because I could never decide which color I wanted. These are my favorite...for now! Sported in the pic by Ashley Simpson....

Ozone Magazine...

I'm so excited!! I have moved closer to one of my goals on my vision board...one of my articles was used on Ozone Magazine's website! Please read and feel free to leave a comment. I really didn't think my proposal would get accepted. Yes, I'm still working on believing and stepping out on faith. I did my research on the best ways to contact magazines, how to write queries and read through various magazines to see which would be best for my subject at hand. I have a ultimate goal to get in a particular magazine but I want to practice with smaller magazines before I go for the big dogs. I WILL get in my ultimate goal magazine real soon :-))

My topic was derived from one of my posts I put up a few weeks ago about music videos and how we need to do better. We being, the supporters, artists, execs and directors. I initially wanted to get in the actual magazine but the editor told me this subject would be good for their website. More than likely because specific videos could be attached to a post online. I just kept reading it and was really proud of myself. Writing an article is not as easy as I thought...you have to really do your research on the subject matter because if you give false info it could be detrimental and people will chop your work to pieces! Thanks to my homie Lilzz who is an awesome writer, reading over it and giving me a few changes to make the article even better. I love my friends, we all have so much to offer one another.

With ALLLLL that being said, never underestimate your power, goals and dreams! You just never know...I know you all are probably thinking, it's just an article on a website but being as though I never tried a lot of things just automatically assuming my idea would be rejected this really inspired me to keep working hard! I hope you enjoy the article, I know I enjoyed writing it!

Today's Affirmation...

I have favor over my life! I will get everything back that I have lost...TENFOLD. I am a much better ME than I was a year ago. My problems are a tunnel to creativity with color, light and LIFE at the end. My family and friends will have good health and success...my enemies/frenemies included. All those things I am claiming and will receive.

What are you affirming today???

Spending Diet...

Thanks to my new financial advisor I have been put on a strict spending diet!! My girl Lillian put me on with her cousin who is an excellent help in getting finances in order. I am great at saving money but I still have tendencies to spend the rest of my money very frivolously. Sitting for 2 hours yesterday going through all my bank statements, accounts ect. I was so ashamed and upset with myself. The main items on my statements were: Lauriol, Chipotle, McDonalds, Baskin Robbins, TJ Maxx....should I continue??

I got to really identify where my money was going so now I can focus in on what areas I need to cut back on my spending. A lot of those purchases are out of pure laziness or impatience. I am too impatient to wait to eat when I get home or too lazy to cook something when I am home. I will be cutting back on hanging out places that require me to spend money, I have been given an allowance amount to receive every time I get paid. I can do whatever I want as long as the spending stays within the alloted amount. I am forcing myself to make better day to day decisions and I'm sure I will see so much money left over from month to month. I have to learn to say NO....I can not participate in every event that takes place. Honestly, a lot of events that I should be involved in are free or low cost.

This will really be a huge change for me but they say prepare before you have no choice so while I have the choice I'm working to create good habits and someone else is now holding me accountable. My advisor threatened to not work with me anymore if she saw I did not stick to the plan...I don't want to disappoint myself or a genuine caring person who's attempting to help me out in the long run.

Wish me Luck!!!!

MUST READ: Bereolaesque....

I was up bright and early this morning reading my new 'Bereolaesque: The Comtemporary Gentleman & Etiquette Book for the Urban Sophisticate' and I am half way through it already. I first heard about this book via twitter, someone had retweeted a tip from @bereolaesque so I was scrolling through the timeline and came across the link to the book. I immediately went on Amazon and I don't think I saw one bad review. I'm an avid reader, at this point in my life I'm more into self help books but I love reading about anything and learning tons of new information. This book is in a way geared to helping boys transition into men while still exuding style, class while being true to THEMSELVES....

Even though I'm a female I still feel it was a good read to get a males point of view and it was also good to see that my views of male etiquette weren't just me being a picky female. There is basics that some "boys" don't have and it is unacceptable at a certain age. When social events, business meetings, group dinners ect. are the norm no one wants to take a guy out with them who will embarrass them with rude, sloppy damn near barbaric ways. I will be passing this book on to some males I know who could use a little more coaching in some areas to pull out their inner sophistication.

There were tons of quotes that I loved in the book but the one that stood out to me the most, so far is "Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot" ~ Clarence Thomas This is so true because no one wants to help or associate with rude individuals. But if you make yourself a pleasant person to be around others will go above and beyond to give you opportunities that you feel you aren't worthy of. We always think we have to have these amazing skills and talents but a lot of people get "hooked up" because of a small friendly gesture and humility. At times we feel we have to change who we are to fit in when that isn't necessary, you can still be YOU while displaying proper behavior and etiquette. I just look at Russell Simmons, he may have one of the most potty mouthes out there but he knows when and where to do it....he is being himself....he is generous and helps others and makes others feel comfortable around him. We all know how successful he is, so I said that to say you don't have to walk around uptight and fake but just know how to turn certain actions off and on at the right time.

YOU vs ALTER EGO....

We all have fallen victim to wanting to portray a certain image that may not always coincide with whom we really are. As stated in the book "We become so wrapped in our image that we fail to realize who we really are; we become completely lost. At this point we are more comfortable living as our image - alter ego - than accepting our own realities. " This is soooo true! I know I have found myself succumbing to the pressure of maintaining a certain image but it is very draining. I've also seen that most of the time when you be who YOU really are people actually take more to that because it is not fake. You also attract the type of individuals who are like you versus the people who like the fake you because in reality you all really have nothing in common. We have to look at ourselves in the mirror and find out "who am I"...."what do I like"...."how do I want to dress"....."what career do I want to pursue" and the list goes on. This comes from spending time by yourself. If you are always around people 24/7 it is easy to be persuaded to think there is ONE right or wrong image. You get caught up in other people's success thinking you have to take that same path. What works for one, may not be the best for the other. Then once you obtain things that others have that you wanted so much you realize...shit I still feel empty, now what do I do?? But to the people on the outside you look like you have it all together.

Once you focus on the inner you, your outer image will naturally line up with what's inside. You become satisfied and begin to love your differences. Why be a carbon copy, we all have so much to contribute so we have to find our own place in the world to fulfill ourselves and purpose in life!!

Didn't expect this post to be long but 'it is what it is'....Check out the Bereolaesque book which can be purchased on Amazon!

Baby Sharn...HOT new track!

Check out my girl Baby Sharn's new track over some Georgia Anne Muldrow! Keep an eye out for this up and coming artist...coming straight out of DC. She is surely giving all these other female artists a run for their money, I think she's a step above! Check out more from Baby Sharn on www.babysharn.com


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Photos done by Tia Warhall...her work can be found on tiawarhall.tumblr.com