Thursday, February 24, 2011

ALL OF THE LIGHTS....

PULL OUT YOUR 3D GLASSES!!

I'm a huge Kanye fan and off his most recent album this was one of my favorite tracks! This is such a doooope video...i love colors and from an artistic point of view it's amazing! It's like you almost get tranquilized staring at the colors.



Kanye West - All Of The Lights
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I just wish all the features on the song could have been in the video...especially my girl Fergie! I know she would have went off! ENJOY!

I was reading on Necole Bitchie how this vid was deemed a health hazard! "particularly to those who suffer from epilepsy. The constant use of flashing imagery in the video may cause people with photosensitive epilepsy to have seizures. A U.K based charity group contacted Youtube and other video channels after they received calls from people who had seizures upon viewing the video"

WishList...Bedazzled Booties!!!!!

OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG! I have to have these booties! I am a lover of colors and these shoes are a must have! They sold out in one day so i made sure to get an update when they are back in stock....the price tag is pretty steep but sometimes you have to treat yourself and this may be my treat for the spring/summer!

You can tell me these things ain't HOT FIYAH!! And any simple outfit will work...I can't stop staring at them!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Believe...

Ive been having a rough couple of weeks...feeling a little overwhelmed with things i'm trying to stay on top of. While continuing to remind myself all things done with good intentions and the right motives will work out in the end! I had on a bracelet i just bought today and i happened to actually looked at the word on the gold plate and it said BELiEVE. I just took that as a sign from God to keep working and that He sees all my efforts....

When things are bad they're BAD but the lessons learned from each situation makes it all worth it in the end.


- Checking in from my iPhone...I love everyone's feedback!

Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Hip Hop Sh*t...

Someone posted this new Chris Brown track on FB and I had to upload it to my blog! This is some real good hip hop...if you listen to the words they are really spitting some good stuff :-)) I was so excited to see this! Too bad it wasn't longer than 2 minutes...

"Sometimes I wish I had better friends and better peers...cuz I know when that cheddar ends they disappear"



Never knew Chris Brown to be a hip hop rapper but he did his thing. I hope he's not tired of dancing because he kept the bar high in the department...

*turns headphones up*

TITLES...YAY or NAY


"Do you wanna be my boy/girlfriend" check YES or NO...

Do titles help or hurt "friendships" and potential relationships? I had just been randomly thinking, as always, and I wondered is having a title on a relationship a big deal?? I feel there are pros and cons but to me, when it boils down a title is just something to make the other partner accountable for their actions. I feel both parties having a CLEAR understanding is way more important than a title.

As you get older, no one really says "Ok today on February 16 we are now officially a couple" but where or when do you know you are exclusive with that person? A lot of times we don't realize we are exclusive until one day you look up like damn this is the only person I have a desire to be with but the question is does the person you're "dating" feel the same? Sometimes when there is no title it's an easy out if one gets caught up talking to or having sex with an outsider. That's where the understanding comes in...i feel these things should be kind of discussed once you find yourself consistently hanging out and talking on an everyday basis. it's easy to assume and then when things change you're kind of stuck because it's like, welllll do I say something or don't I...

A lot of times when we enter friendships we have no idea what direction that will go in. Women, not all but many, have a habit of not setting boundaries or stating their likes and dislikes as a way to make the guy feel 100% comfortable and to not cause confusion in the beginning. That is the problem...it is ok to say what you don't like or don't feel is acceptable. now, don't expect the guy to immediately change...if ever. But at least he will know what you expect if things do happen to progress and he will know what he's getting himself into up front. A lot of guys fear that once they put that stamp on the relationship being together becomes a chore and the dynamic changes drastically. The minute it's stamped then the female runs down this long list of do's and don'ts! So that's why at times commitment seems unattractive because everything changes. And that should not be the case...of course certain actions should be cut back but for the most part both parties should be on the same page by the time and commitment is made.

You don't place standards later, you set them in the beginning then that will make for a smoother transition. Me personally, I don't get caught up on titles because I like for things to just flow naturally BUT I do see why they could be important when dealing with someone who isn't being all the way up front about their "extracurricular" activities. Once that title gets spoken up the guy knows he needs to tie up any loose ends and even with a title that is not guaranteed! Some people will just give the title, to get the other person off their back but still doing them on the side....so I guess it's a no win situation. the key is OPEN AND HONEST communication, understanding and trust. Do what is best for YOU and your situation not what everyone else says you should do.

Everything does not work for everybody...

Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Valentine's Day!

I guess it would be "unethical" if I didn't post a Vday blog today...Vday is cool but I definitely feel it's a holiday geared to the economy. Love should be shown everyday not just once a year. Today should be used to show everyone love, not just your significant other but family and friends as well. Sometimes this day can cause turmoil in relationships that aren't as stable as couples think they are. One person gets mad if the couple didn't spend enough money or they are dissatisfied with the "gift" when a gift OR Valentine's day should not make or break the happiness in a REALationship.

The same thought we put in making our loved ones happy today, we should try doing that more often...money doesn't always have to be spent, there will be years where finances aren't good so then how will love be shown?? just enjoy today and reflect on ALL the good in our lives and be sure not to let the superficial take away the true meaning of LOVE!

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Black History Month...

In honor of Black History Month I thought I'd put up a short post about a great black woman, other than my Ma of course, who inspires me in many ways. Maya Angelou...she is one of the most influential African American authors and orators of the twentieth century. She started out as a cable car conductor after she dropped out of high school then she went on to get into singing and dancing in the 1950s. Then in the '60s she began writing and editing and through the 70s she found her talents as an actress, director, poet and screenwriter.

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel" ~ Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou was featured on one of Oprah's series entitled 'MasterClass' and I learned that she was mute up until the age of 6! To think she is one of the greatest orators just shows me it doesn't matter how you start but how you finish and anyone is capable of greatness as long as it is desired. I love her spirit, all her interviews are just so fulfilling and they give hope and she can relate to anyone...not just writers, poets, ect. The lessons she's learned can be applied to any individuals every day life.

My Grandmother loves Maya Angelou and it is sooo crazy how she looks just like her!! My Gma also has the kind of soul like her as well. Very wise, and sweet but can be a firecracker at the drop of a dime! We always joke about how we are going to get my Gma on Oprah on a look-a-like show :-) My Gma is a huge fan of Oprah as well as Maya A. I've included a pic of my Gma in case you didn't believe me. People on a daily basis ask if my Gma is Maya and she tells them no and just giggles...there have been many people who thinks she is lying to keep her identity under wraps.

Even though blacks and their history should be celebrated and taught daily, let's be sure to take out at least this month to learn and teach someone, whether it be youth or an adult, about the strength of our black leaders!