Kelz's Pick-Me-Up....

Kellie is going to get me! I was supposed to do this post on Sunday...but like you said one thing a day so I can say i put up the picture on Monday morning lol

As she saved the day and fit me in her schedule to do my hair after a couple days at the beach it turned out to be a wonderful visit. We both were talking about our feelings, dreams, goals, moments of feeling stuck and also confusion. I left with a different perspective and more energy to continue working at the things I enjoy. I shared how I had been slacking off on the blog post updates, slacking on my photography and just at a state of confusion. I know what I love to do but I just can't think of what I want to call it that I want to be...if that makes any sense. The thing that stuck out the most was "you got the goods"...I have everything I already need and if I just continue to be diligent and improve on ALL the things I enjoy doing which also unknowingly help and inspire others God will guide me and it will all make sense.

I also expressed how I feel like I put time in and I never see anything come of those things so she asked "well how much time are you putting in"?? And as I thought about it, I have days where I go ALL IN then I won't do anything for a good couple weeks and that isn't good enough. So I am working on doing one thing a day involving goals I wish to accomplish. My problem is focus and discouragement. When I get discouraged I lose FOCUS. I'm working on it and I know I will see improvement in those two areas.

So thanks again Kelz and know that you really helped!! Be sure to check out her wonderful site Living For Purpose and be sure to order a copy of her new book !!!

Have a great one people and just remember, take everything one day at a time...don't focus on the bigger picture do your best in the NOW and the bigger picture will be more than you could even imagine!

Great Quote!!!

“To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.”

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

I thought this was a great quote especially when we get hard on ourselves when working to accomplish goals. A lot of times it's the smallest achievements that actually define success. The big goals are awesome to tackle but don't overlook the small things that we give and get. Hope this helped your day, I know it has helped mines.....

#GOODDADSROCK!

With Father's Day coming up this Sunday I thought I'd post this really cute video!! I could not stop laughing! Men need to really step up and be there for their kids whether they have enough money or not, kids don't think about that. Fathers can do the smallest things and their children will remember it forever.


Also MEN, you don't have to be hard all the time! Loosen up and have a little fun with the kiddies.

I hope you enjoyed! If you do have a good father, husband, boyfriend, baby daddy etc. treat him good this coming Sunday. You don't have to buy an extravagant gift but just do something for him that he will remember forever.

GRATITUDE....

Gratitude: thankfulness, gratefulness, or appreciation is a positive emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive

I've been really slacking on blogging lately, I've been kind of busy doing other things in my spare time but I promise I'm back on it! I thought Gratitude would be a great topic to come back on...my plain and simple definition is appreciation of anything a person does for me, whether it be big or small! Having gratitude and being humble go hand in hand, life has a way of humbling all people who have a sense of entitlement, in other words ungrateful people!

We have to realize, we came in this world alone and we will leave alone so NO ONE...i repeat NO ONE owes us anything! The only person we can hold accountable is God based on His promises to us and even with that we may not get the very things we ask for but we will get the things that we need and that are best for us. So anytime someone does anything even if it's just a simple compliment that brightens up our day, we need to be thankful for that. It's the smallest gestures that make a huge difference in our day to day living. Individuals are always looking for fireworks, blow horns and fire spitting monkeys in order to be happy. when little things no longer make you happy, you will NEVER get to get the bigger things in life. Why would God give us more when we don't appreciate what we already have?? We sometimes need to take a look inside and see what's the problem when nothing makes us happy. Why do we always nag?? Why do we always complain?? Why do we feel it's others job to clean up our mess we made?? It's a form of self hate...point blank. When we hate who we are as individuals there is nothing any one or any THING can do on the outside to bring satisfaction.

This is why there are tons of sick minded people in this world because instead of searching within themselves they point the finger at others, throw dirt on others names etc. because they want everyone to feel like they do and try to make themselves feel better. When in reality the problem hasn't been solved! Everyone continues on with their life and see these individuals for who they really are. It's time for us (me included) to GIVE more, then you RECEIVE 10x what you put out. Don't give just to get something out of, give from your heart. Even if it's not appreciated just do it because it's the right thing to do. Good Givers are Good Getters as Russell Simmons would say and we all know he's getting IT! lol

Always remember, HURT PEOPLE...HURT PEOPLE and there are some things you can overlook but when you are no longer appreciated or respected it's time to re evaluate your self worth and make the necessary changes. We can make this world a lot better if we get out of our own way and think about ways to help others and we ALL will benefit in the end :-))

Kind of long but it's with good intention....

Urban Soul Warrior....

I couldn't wait until I finished this book to tell you all about it! This is an amazing read...i think everyone should get a copy! it will make you think about so much going on within yourself and how it portrays on the outside in our daily lives. It includes mini exercises to help you write out thoughts, fears, wants, etc. When we write things it allows us to accept them...both good and bad. This book helps us to have a non judgmental attitude towards ourselves and others. No one has "flaws" those perceived "flaws" are the very intricacies that makes us different from the next person. We all have things about us that need to be dealt with or nurtured but even our worse "flaws" can open our eyes to the very best qualities about ourselves.

I haven't finished reading just yet but where I've gotten so far I am in awe at the things that I've learned about myself. I've suppressed so many feelings, beliefs and dreams while centering most of my opinions around the "norm". This book will be like a RAW version of a diary! You can get the book on Amazon for dirt cheap so cop you one!!!

My rant to Patience...

Just a snippet of my rant to Patience...I'm trying to get this thing down packed, i see progression but not quite there yet:

"Dear Patience aka Bxtch,

Why are you so hard to obtain?? Why when I think I have you down packed you seem to slip through my fingertips? Why are you always tested when I feel I'm at my best ME?? Why do you make me feel like I’m wasting time with nothing to come in the end?? Why do others without you seem to get all the goods?? Am I making any progress? If so, I sure as hell can’t tell! Can you just show me one sign…a bite sized sign….a huge sign…anything?!"

I'm thinking of submitting this in it's entirety to a magazine because I know we ALL have these thoughts and feelings at some point and time. Just thought I'd share...

Color Outside the Lines....

Hi Beautiful People!!! I've been gone for a while taking care of a lot of unexpected situations but I'm back on track!

What a great way to start out with a clip from a new film coming out entitled "Color Outside the Lines: A Tattoo Documentary".... this films documents black tattoo artist and their struggle in the tattoo world. Talks about the differences between "scratchers" and real SKILLED tattoo artist. Today's society loves tattoos but we need to get to supporting the real artist who have taken out the time to actually learn their craft and give amazing and HEALTHY tats.

Check out the trailer and become a backer of the film if you would like to support this movement!



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Love Them to Pieces...BEY N' JAY

Saw this picture on Necole Bitchie's page and had to post it! I love power couples who still know how to just have fun with one another. Hovi is play fighting with Bey, she looks like she got the bobbing and weaving down packed!

It's always important to have fun with your partner...sometimes we take life too seriously! You don't want your home life being drab so make your relationship what YOU TWO want it to be not what people say it should be. I'm a big kid at heart so my partner has to know how to have fun or we will NOT work...

Keep On Pushin....

"Life is very interesting.. in the end, some of your greatest pains, become your greatest strengths"

Just thought I would share this quote that I came across on twitter, for anyone who may be feeling overwhelmed by things going on in life right now. Keep pushing and know that everything will get better. That's what I'm reminding myself now during my rough patch...I've really matured because with all the BS I still have a sense of happiness and joy =)) it's impossible for negative times to last forever...do your part, learn from it and let God handle the rest.